Someone must’ve flipped an invisible switch when I was a junior in high school, because, at the ripe age of 17 years old, I started receiving a healthy amount of male attention—and it was intoxicating.

The exhilaration I would feel from getting glances in the hallway and eventually during my freshman year of college, fueled my flesh. I was the innocent and shy girl that people wanted to know, well-tailored and kind—I had a lot going for myself except for one minor detail…

I didn’t know my worth.

From 17 to 20 years old, I could easily consider these three years as a Trek through decades worth of drama, heartache and spiritual chaos. I was talking to one boy, striking an line through his name and then receiving a message from another.

I allowed boys, who hadn’t yet began the process of growing into men, the ability to learn my weaknesses and have control over my emotions...

Men six to nine years older than me—asking me to become their one-day wife because they knew I was loyal enough to keep their infidelity invigorating and fresh.

This is the kind of stuff I either put myself through or settled for. 

It’s easy to say that young women should ‘get out there’ in order to piece together their ‘perfect man,’ but if I could relay that same message to another young and innocent girl that mirrored my 17-year-old self—I would feel like a murderer of joy.

If only I knew that finding my worth was the journey that I needed to pay more attention to, rather than the messages in my phone and possible replies to flirtatious requests. If only I understood that being single was a chance to grow into the kind and virtuous spirit that I once had and have recently tried to replenish.

Once I gave my life to Christ, which was another journey in itself that I wrote about in my recent ‘What They Don’t Tell You About Life After Baptism’ post, I experienced His love and the many possibilities that came with knowing His power—yet, I put that joy aside for the sake of my journey towards finding ‘Mr. Right.’

Only after welcoming 2016 did I begin realizing and being told by other sisters in Christ that Gods plan for my life was not something I needed to force or find myself.

I realized that the man God has for me will find ME and it doesn't require my dignity to be handed over as a sacrifice on a platter.

I rejoice now, knowing that I can take this time as a single young woman to work on myself and enjoy the time I have to be selfishly unselfish. I can worry about my heart, and worry about serving others and God without the added responsibility of a relationship and possibility of marriage. 

I also feel a sense of security knowing that the next man I share my time with will NOT be someone that I claim I'm just 'talking to.' The next man I meet will have so much purpose and potential, I would feel comfortable and strong enough to share my whole self, fearlessly. Now doesn't that sound nice? 

If there’s one thing I can say after knowing what I know now, it’s to sit pretty with your legs crossed and hands lifted in the air towards Jesus—figuratively of course.

My #1 advice when single? Seek contentment...Here's why: Share on X

Work on your temple and renew your confidence. Be healthy and enjoy the benefits of physical equilibrium. Stay pure and learn discipline. The kind of discipline that martial artists practice is the same that is learned during ones' celibacy journey, or so it feels. (Comment AMEN if you agree!)

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Lastly, and most important, work on your spirit. Allow your mind to wander not into negativity—but into the glory of His presence. It is a blessing in itself that, although I am on a 'single' journey, I will NEVER be alone.

Just thinking about all the exciting things I get to experience while working on myself already makes me feel fulfilled in my current season. My name is Miss Lynn and I am Single, Content & Satisfied.

How are you feeling during YOUR current season?
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- Miss Lynn